看过一个国外的故事:有两个少年在厕所相遇,其中一个找另一个戴帽子的借了点儿手纸。等出了厕所借手纸的给戴帽子的上了根烟,以示感谢。于是俩人边走边聊。戴帽子的说:“最近家里逼着我学钢琴,可我怎么都弹不好,郁闷啊!”借手纸那位诧异地说:“钢琴有什么难学的?我从五岁开始弹,现在越弹越溜。倒是我们家里人老逼着我写诗,烦呐!”戴帽子的一听乐了,从背着的挎包里拿出一沓稿纸:“哥们儿就爱写诗,喏,这都是,不行你拿走回家交差去。”
关键在结尾处,原来这个不爱学琴的就是大诗人歌德,不爱写诗的则是莫扎特。故事讲完了,可能多少会有些出入,但是不赖我,是翻译的问题。大家都知道,翻译的水平总是有高有低。
于是,道理就出来了:人,一定要做自己想做的事情。
话虽然如此,我也知道有时候做起来不像说着那么容易。但是起码应该去争取吧?人只活一辈子——我不相信还有什么来世——所以更值得去好好珍惜。而且,人只有做自己想做的事才能从中得到快乐——能快乐地活着恐怕是绝大多数人所追求的。
就拿写作举个例子。略萨曾经说过:“我敢肯定的是,作家从内心深处感到写作是他经历过的最美好的事情,因为对作家来说,写作是最好的生活方式。”还真是这样,我之所以喜欢写作,主要的原因是它能给我带来乐趣,能让我沉醉其中并乐此不疲。金钱和名誉,只不过是一些可有可无的附加价值而已。
说是这么说,但是我相信:如果你正在做自己喜欢做的事,并付出了不懈的努力。那么,请你一定要坚持下去。因为天道酬勤,付出和回报基本上是成正比。只是有一点,你想做的这件事首先应该正确而且是适合自己的。
渐渐成长的过程中,我发现自己在做喜欢的事情的时候,既主动又有效率。反言之,被强迫去做的,或是在唠叨的命令下,去做的每一件事情,不管我喜不喜欢,我都是心不甘、情不愿的用敷衍的态度去应付,一点也不快乐。
其中最让我引以为苦的一件事情,就是跟着妈妈和她的朋友们一起出游。我只要一听到妈妈说要去哪里里玩,我就打心眼里排斥,小声的嘀咕:“拜托!我可不可以不要跟啊?你们自己去就好了啊!”
虽然可以出去玩,但是跟着这些阿姨去的地方,大都是只能拍照留念而已,也没有什么游乐的成份,这些无聊的度假胜地,或是风景名胜,一点也吸引不了我。我只得苦中作乐,在一旁找个水池打水飘而已。
这时,万一听到她们叫:“快快!来拍照!”我就大叫不妙,“照相”是我更痛恨的一件事情了,这简直跟下十八层地狱一样的活受罪,我就搞不懂怎么这么多人爱自拍,走到哪里里拍到哪里里,你们拍你们的,拜托别拖我下水吧!还要叫我“笑一个”?这实在太强人所难了。
所以,我的结论是:做自己不喜欢的事情,简直就是讨厌到最高点了。
By the time you read this you will be 30. At the age of 18 I had so many hopes and dreams about where you'd be, what you'd be doing and with whom you'd spend your life with.
Right now I hope that you have traveled and seen everything you've always wanted to, both in Canada and overseas, and maybe even settled down somewhere in Australia doing some research in the field of biology (genetics.
I hope you're married to the man of your dreams. The man of mine is Gwynn. He is originally from South Africa (another place I wish to visit.
You'll probably have two children of your own – a girl(Michaela Anne and a boy (name yet to be decided.If everything goes according to plan you'll be living in Australia in a big house in a small town outside of a big city with a lot of land, a dog, Gwynn and your two beautiful children. Hopefully you have a career in the medical field, maybe doing research in genetics. Gwynn will be a computer programmer and you will be doing alright for yourselves.
However, if things don't go according to plan for you, I wish you all the love, happiness and joy in the world and don't settle for anything less than the best since that is absolutely what you deserve.
Live long, be happy and live life to it's fullest.
Love Sherri "18″
When you look back on yourself in the past – 10, 20, 30 or more years ago – it’s surprising to see how much you have changed over time. Your experiences, your friends, your family and your work have all shaped who you are right now. But where will you be in another few years? How will you have changed? Reflective writing in your journal is an excellent way to think about what you want out of the future.
当你10年、20年或更多年后回顾过去时,你会吃惊地发现,随着时光的流逝,你也发生了很大的变化。你的经历、朋友、家庭和工作造就了现在的你。但是再过几年你会在哪里呢?你会如何变化呢?这样反思性的写作,会是思考未来你想要什么的一种好的方式。
You may have already written a letter to your younger self before, conveying all the wisdom and perspective you wish you had had at the time. Now consider the opposite end of the spectrum; what would you say if you wrote your future self a letter?
你也许以前试过给过去的自己写信,向年轻时的自己传授一些人生的智慧和观点,你希望那时候的自己就能知道这些。现在我们换个角度看问题,如果让你给未来的自己写封信,你会写点什么?
Just imagine writing a letter to your future self 5 years from now, then opening it at that exact moment 5 years down the road to see how much of it resonated with you. It is a useful supplementary tool to be used in goal achievement, because when you write the letter to your future self, it helps crystallize exactly how you anticipate yourself to become at that specific moment down the road.
想象一下,给5年后的'自己写一封信,当5年后你打开那封信时,你会产生多少共鸣。这是实现目标的一种有用的辅助工具,因为当你给未来的自己写信时,你会慢慢理清希望自己在人生旅途的那个特定时刻变成什么样子。
As you read the letter in the future, you can assess how many things match up (or not vs. your expectations in the past and think about why that’s the case. Often times, the goals we set and our goal achievement process are subjected to a lot of changes along the way, due to varying obstacles, unanticipated circumstances and changing priorities. The letter gives you a macro-view of your initial vision and lets you recognize how your current vision differs from the past.
当你在未来读这封信时,你可以看看有多少事情是像你过去期望的那样,你也会思考为什么会这样。很多时候,我们设定目标在实现的过程中会受到沿途中各种因素的影响,因为会遇到各种各样的困难、各种意外情况并需要不断调整优先级。这封信能让你从宏观的角度上去看自己最初的愿景,让你意识到自己现在的想法和过去相比有多么不同。
When you open the letter in the future, you as your future self gets to compare how you used to be in the past and compare with how you are currently. This lets you see in totality how much things have changed since then – and this can be a really intriguingexperience. It’s interesting to just see how much you have grown/changed since you wrote the letter.
当你以后看信时,你会把过去的自己和现在的自己进行比较。这会让你看清从写信时起你发生了哪些变化,这种体验是非常有趣的。光看看从你写信开始发生了哪些变化就很有趣了。
我的世界我做主,我的人生我来high。
喜欢在星期天下午爬到寝室的五楼层顶,坐在浅灰色的粗糙的地板上,感受温暖的阳光散发的暖融融的气息,感受它以飞的速度的靠近,心里总是很温存、自在。那时候,满脑子是跳跃的不知名的音符,谱写着一首首不知名的乐曲,和着我的心声,飞扬,飘荡。很喜欢这样的自己。
喜欢独自一人坐在幽暗的房间里,拧亮台灯,感受着15V的灯光带给我的'光和热,感受着书本带给我的踏实、满足和安谧。我常常会平静地呆上一天,不吃不睡,贪婪地猎取着这种带着孤独的幽暗所赐予我的满足感,在这里,我很快乐。
喜欢在下晚息之后,独自一人背着单肩包悠哉游哉的在校园里散步像是个孤独的行者,但是,我很幸福。然后随手捡起一些石子和落叶,放在还残留着书香的包包里,一边走,一边哼着周杰伦的夜曲,感觉美味极了。接下来,我会快速刷牙洗脸,宽衣睡觉,迫不急待地拥抱我爱的黑夜。竭尽全力地幻想并设计着我的未来。
喜欢在路上碰到熟人却不与他们打招呼,喜欢对陌生人微笑,喜欢朋友们的宠爱,也讨厌他们的宠爱,因为这样,我总会给自己造成困拢,总爱一个人,像郭敬明笔下的齐勤铭,喜欢一个人的旅行,一个人寻找自己要的生活,如果无法找到,就一直找下去……
喜欢的太多,就会给自己造成很多的困惑,系上许多解不开的心结,这样好吗?对,这样很好,因为我做的是自己,一个真真实实的自己。偶尔会想到自己那些桀驾不拘的好友,很想他们,与他们在一起,我会很轻松,不会有任何的压抑。
所以,我就把自己放到网络世界里,设计我要的生活,删除我讨厌的烦恼,保存我拥有的beautiful memory。这样,很不错,喜欢自己不是罪。
后记:十六年了,我知道自己是个好女孩,二年后,我依然会是个好女孩,可是当踏入成人的行列中,我依然会是个好女孩吗?在这个不真实的世界里,我还能活多久。
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