读书,是现代人日常生活中必不可缺的一件事。古人云:“书中自有黄金屋,书中自有颜如玉。”最近,我也迷上了一本名为《学会选择,懂得放弃》的书。
这本书主要写了:人生需要放弃,放弃了无路可走的胡同,你就会有新的契机。不劳动而获得便宜则需要放弃,便宜的背后,往往隐藏着祸端。如果你的成功已到达顶峰,那么你更要放弃,激流勇退,给世人留下的是辉煌的记忆。放弃是一种智慧,放弃是一种豪气,放弃是真正意义的潇洒。
书中许许多多的故事令我受益匪浅,如其中的一篇:学会选择,懂得放弃。一定会有一些苦,一些痛,但是收获更多的是快乐和幸福!该执着的时候,就应该执着,该放弃的时候,就必须放弃。衡量清楚,才不会太过于委屈自己。苦苦追求不属于自己的东西,不但迷失了自己,也徒然耗费了自己的青春和精力,与其如此,我们不如先轻轻放下,反而会感到惬意无比。
我不禁联想到:少年时的我们都把所有的精力投入到了网络游戏中。我们不妨放下游戏,去努力学习,这样就可以把多一些的精力投入学习之中。少年时的我们憧憬着美好的未来,而未来就掌握在我们自己的手中。
拥有幸福的人生,建立美好的未来。都需要我们做出正确的选择,做出合理的放弃。只有这样,才能在适合自己的人生道路上创造出美好的未来!
我曾听过这样一个故事,一只蜜蜂送了一壶蜜给天神,天神很高兴,答应送蜜蜂一个礼物,蜜蜂选择了能蛰人的毒针,天神答应了,但蜜蜂刺了人之后,生命也随之结束。
智者曾说过“两弊相衡取其轻,两利相权取其重。”那么,如果蜜蜂懂得了智慧的选择,我觉得,它在慎重考虑后一定会选择自己的生命。但是,如果它学会了放弃呢?蜜蜂如果学会放弃自己本不该得到的东西,选择了一个合情合理的愿望,那么它即会收获了实现愿望后的愉悦,同时又能保全生命,这样的.结果,难道不好吗?
其实,在现实生活中也发生过类似的事情:在春运期间,有一位大学生捡到了一个钱包,里面有一万元现金还有几张信用卡,他有些紧张,有些害怕地将钱包捡起来,拿回了家。在思考了一个晚上后,他终于战胜了心底中的阴暗面,最终将钱包送到了警察局。这位大学生放弃了令人眼热的金钱,但是,他却选择了安心、选择了静心,这就是一种智慧的选择。虽然他将钱还了回去,但在以后的生活中,他却会得到远超一万元的回报。他可以问心无愧地做人,可以安静地生活,不为自己过往的阴暗而倍受煎熬。
“鱼我所欲也,熊掌以我所欲也,二者不可兼得,舍鱼而取熊掌者也。这个事件说的不就是这个道理吗?有所为有所不为,有所得必有所失。”也许,我们更多的时候,执着于鱼,执着于有所得,有所为,只看到选择放弃时的失落与痛苦而忘记了假如我们不放弃鱼,就会面临更大的失去熊掌的痛苦。人生亦是如此,只有选择适当的放弃,才会有更多的收获。
人生如戏,每个人都是自己生命的唯一导演,学会选择,学会放弃,才会经营出一个成功的人生。“宠辱不惊,闲看亭前花落;去留随意,漫随天际云卷云舒。”学会选择学会放弃,才会拥有海阔天空的境界。
读书让人懂得更多。人的一生,可供选择机会的东西并不多,而要放弃的东西却很多,比如,要放弃不适合你的工作、狭小的'房子、搁置的废旧物品、不良的习惯、固执的想法、破碎的婚姻等等。
放弃是智者面对生活的明智选择,只有懂得何时放弃的人,才会事事如鱼得水。放弃不是消极避世,不是不思进取,而是一种明智的选择,是另一种更实际更科学更合理的追求。放弃不是得过且过,不是无所作为,而是一种智慧,一种境界。一个人学会了放弃,就学会审视自己,扬长避短,量力而行,塞翁失马,焉知非福,有得必有失,有失必有得,无所谓绝对得赢,也无所谓绝对得输。虽然可以放弃的东西很多,但决不能放弃自己的独特之处,要相信自己,而信心就来自于你的选择和放弃。
如果一生不懂得去选择也不懂得去放弃,那他一辈子就永远也没有快乐。追求快乐是人的天性,哪个人不想生活的快乐点?但现在的社会是复杂的,并不是哪一个人所能左右得了的,所以我们要义无反顾地做出选择和放弃,得到自己的快乐。比如学会放弃烦恼,你便得到了“余暇”,你便释放了紧张,你便获得了快乐。
快放假了,请大家也放弃一些琐碎的事,感受一下你的假期生活吧!你的假期首选是读书。
1.看一遍申请人的个人材料或,这样你的推荐信才能和申请相吻合,而不会在内容上有所冲突或重复。
2.让申请人给你提供更多的材料,如简历等。
3.描述你把该申请人和其他申请人对比的先决条件。
我已从教20年,过去五年来,我指导过大约450名学生的独立研究项目。
五年来,我每年夏天带10名实习生,同时还以大银行集团(Big BankCorp.培训老师的身份带200多名大学生。
4.探讨你对申请人的了解程度。
我认识Doe先生是因为我每周的两次课他都上,而事实上只要求上一次。
史密斯小姐在大六会计事务所(Big Six Accounting Firm升职前两年一直直接向我报告。
5.选你所观察到的申请人的一、两个优点。
珍妮有绝佳的写作和与人交往技巧。Doe先生的特点是坚韧不拔、有分析头脑、善于与人沟通。
6.在描述这些优点的时候,举具体事例来支持你的观点,事例要尽量具体、详细。
他是我所教过的学生中唯一一名把听我所有的课当成一种不懈而最终成功掌握金融理论的努力的学生。班上只有10%的学生得了A,他是其中之一。珍妮有这样好的写作技巧,我毫不犹豫就让她写了一份报告,这份报告是我们政治行动委员会(PAC一项重要政策声明的基础。有了珍妮这20多页关于中东政治的分析,国会议员XXX用这份声明去游说,以图吸纳更多的资金。
7.力求把这名学生的能力量化,或把他和其他申请人相对比。
他是班上10%的好学生之一。在我所知的她的同龄人中,她的'分析能力是最好的。
8.避免一般化和陈词滥调。
9.有一些很温和的批评。
就我所知,他唯一的缺点是他与世无争的性格,这种性格使得他有时隐匿了年轻人的活力和广博的兴趣。
偶尔地,她的坚韧和坚持会变成固执,但通常她都性格很好,头脑也很冷静。
10.谈谈申请人在他/她所选领域里的前景
我竭力向贵商业学校推荐Doe先生,这名成熟的学生会成为一名优秀的商人。
史密斯小姐有优异的领导、写作等才能,她会成为一名出色的战略咨询人员,会成为她所服务的商业机构的骄傲。
In capacity as Professor of Mathematics at Fudan University?I'm writing to recommend Mr. Wang?Gesintosyour PhD program in Computer Science. I have known Mr. Wang since his sophomore year of college?and have acted as his thesis advisormentor. In my experience?he is a gifteddiligent student?and an admirably hard worker.
Wang is an impressive student because he has been forced to overcome the significant challenge of a serious illness during his freshman year. When I first met Wang in my Discrete Math class?he did not appear to be anything special to me. While his exam scores were good?they were not as high as I would now expect of him.
What I didn't know then was that due to his illness?Wang was attempting to take all of the difficult early mathematics courses at one time?including Discrete Mathematics?Advanced Mathematics?Linear Algebra?and Possibilities. While most students found preparing for just one set of these exams difficult?Wang was overwhelmed by four of them. But in the end?he achieved an impressive score on the final exam?which made me conscious of his unusual determination he demonstrates when confronting difficult challenges.
Mr. WangI have often talked about a variety of mathematicscomputer science conceptsproblems. During these discussions?I always found him to be delightfully intelligent. Not only does he quickly understand the conceptsproblems presented to him?he is able to analyze these problemspresent solutions. But perhaps most important is that Wang's thinking is intensely rigorous. When looking at any question?he carefully scrutinizes itif he finds any uncertain issue
he clears them up immediately. I believe this kind of thought is essential to become an excellent computer programmer.
Serving as his thesis advisor?I had a first-hand opportunity to observe the way in which Wang's mind works. In his senor thesis?Mr. Wang mainly discussed two challenging questions in regards to″ANN″。 In our books in China?knowledge of ANNits uses are very rare. Few people in China have studied this topicconsequently?the materials that are available on ANN are limited. Working on this difficult project?not only did Mr. Wang rise to the challenge?but he went abovebeyond the call of duty to analyze his secondary sourcestest them for accuracy in practice. In this way?he found mistakes in the book that we use. His diligencehard work made me extremely proud of him.
生活中充满了各种各样的选择,正如帕瓦罗蒂的父亲所说,“你如果想坐两把椅子,可能会从椅子中间掉下去,生活要求你只能选一把椅子”,没错,有选择,就有放弃,脚踩两只船的结局无一例外——狼狈的落水。
这便要求我们,要学会选择,要能够做到正确地选择,从容地放弃。
总有些人不敢放弃,在命运的选择中徘徊不定,摇摆不决,最终一事无成,碌碌终生。首先,我们便要学会放弃。放弃,并不意味着对自己不负责地放弃一切,我所说的放弃,是有选择的,有目的的。有时候,当断不断,反受其乱。
乔布斯在经历了六个月的大学生涯后毅然选择了退学,放弃了大学的深造,理由是不想让家人承担高额的学费,但是这个看似极不明智的`选择,却造就了一位大商人,发明家,为世界带来了又一次的科技革命,被誉为苹果教父,生前万人敬仰,后万人哀悼。然而,如果当时他选择继续读完大学,或是依然在是否退学中摇摆不定呢?也许他会在微软,或是其他的什么软件公司成为一名普通的程序员或是设计员,想一个普通人一样走完平淡无奇的一生,而不是成为一个与比尔·盖茨齐名的富豪。曾经有记者问他放弃学业后悔吗?他说,这是他一生中最明智的一次选择。
有选择,有放弃,才能造就成功,人生的道路处处都有着岔路口,谁都不知道每一条岔路通向的是哪里,这就要求我们要敢于选择。
然而,敢于选择还不够,我们还要做出正确的判断,放弃不利的,保留有益的。否则也会走向失败。
董卓在争霸天下和吃喝享乐之中抉择,却选择了吃喝享乐,放弃了天下,最终落得个众叛亲离,身首异处的凄惨结局。不是他没有猛将雄兵,谋臣贤士:且看义子吕布,天下战神,张辽高顺,勇武无双;西凉狼骑、飞熊军、虎贲力士,天下之雄兵,无有出其右者;贾诩、李儒,也都是名留史册的智谋之士,然而正是他的错误选择,沉迷于酒乐笙歌,红粉佳人,荒废政事,恣意挥霍,强征暴敛,使得天下之人无一不欲寝其皮,食其肉,最后惨于义子之手,成为天下之笑柄。一世之枭雄,竟落得如此下场,实属可悲。
因此,我们又要以史为鉴,以人为鉴,以己为鉴,做出正确的选择,学会正确地放弃,创造出属于自己的辉煌!
生活就是这样,选择一些,放弃一些,没有什么可后悔的,重来一遍也许还一样,但也没有那么多失而复得和圆满结局,我们是自己的主角,也只是别人生活的注脚。坚持或放弃,怎样选择都没关系,只要是自己的选择,就不会错。
不该拥有的东西,就应该舍弃。一只小壁虎被蛇咬住了尾巴,它拼命地挣扎,尾巴断了,小壁虎得以逃命。 一位农夫见了,对小壁虎说:“你这可怜的小东西,刚断了尾巴,是不是很痛啊!”小壁虎含泪点了点头。“来,我给你包扎上,这草药是止痛的。”农夫拿出一包草药说。“不,我很感谢这疼痛,因为是痛让我知道自己还活着,而且,你包扎了我的伤口,它怎么能长出新的尾巴来呢?”说完,小壁虎带着钻心的疼痛爬走了。必要时也要牺牲一些来保护最重要的东西,就像壁虎断尾逃生.壁虎割舍了尾巴,用尾巴来吸引天敌注意,换回了自己宝贵的生命一样。
伽俐略放弃了自己的自由,誓捍卫自己的学说,才使牛顿得以站在“巨人”的臂膀之上。
比尔·盖茨放弃了自己在哈佛大学的学位,投身商海,成就了二十世纪,人类世界的一个神话。他们都作出了放弃,他们的放弃换来的是成功。但并不是每次放弃都意味着成功,其间必须经历的痛苦是常人难以想像的。但是如果没有放弃便决不会有他们的成功。
生活中,绝不是什么东西都能获得,有时候不得不学会放弃,而有些人在放弃的同时又追寻到了另外一种完美。
From: ****
Department of the SPECIAL CLASS GIFTED for YOUTHS
University of Science and Technology
Hefei, Anhui 230026, P.R. China
July 1, 1998
Dear Sir or Madam:
I take great pleasure in recommending Wang Yong, one of my favorite students, for admission into your distinguished graduate program.
Mr. Wang was admitted in 1986 at 14 years of age into the SPECIAL CLASS for the GIFTED YOUTHS, my university's unique program that caters to the intellectual needs of unusually talented Chinese youngsters. It was a rare privilege he earned with his nearly impeccable academic performance through the years of his elementary and secondary school.
He impressed me almost as he entered into my university, a major cradle of china's scientific and technological talents. At the time, members of the Gifted Class all had to spend half a month studying by themselves the principles of calculus and then take an exam so that we could evaluate their self-study capability. Mr. Wang scored the highest grade in that exam. He also exhibited a keenly whetted mind during class discussions. To my regret at the time, his English was not as good as his mathematics or physics.(缺点介绍,公正真实 But I noticed he made a point of working especially hard in improving his English during his five undergraduate years with us. By now, he seems to be at least as proficient in English as most of his former classmates in the Gifted Class.
In my experience with Mr. Wang, I was impressed with not only his extraordinary intelligence but also his ambitions and persistence. I am sure that Mr. Wang will be an outstanding student in any doctoral program that he may care to enroll in. So I would like to support him firmly in his quest recommendation into account when considering his application. I would greatly appreciate it you decide to accept him as he wishes.
Yours sincerely
****
Professor and Deputy Head
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